I went to business school thinking that one day I would want to be the CEO of a company. Right after college I worked in a technology company to later move into in the banking industry. After my Master’s degree, I began academic research on Latin American female entrepreneurs. Soon, I transitioned into media. Experimenting, working hard and moving forward- I was on the “right” track or so I thought.

Up until that time. I had never given thought to how my career would change when I had kids. My first baby was born and all my energy was focused on her. Definitely, identity crisis- I was no longer who I used to be. Right after came my second baby girl and was immersed in maternity mode. Becoming a mom was something I had always wanted. Becoming a professional and “productive” part of the workforce was also something I had envisioned. I, however had not considered both at the same time. I had all these talents, passions and energy I wanted to share beyond my walls.

It was hard though. Most working women seemed to share the same feelings. When they were working they felt guilty for not spending time with their kids. When they were with their kids they felt like they had to be working. How to make both compatible without feeling guilty or better yet feel more balance?

Let me tell you, it takes re-thinking, re-visiting and all the re-dos you can think of. After some soul-searching, corporate working while breastfeeding and more, I now feel balance. Here are some thoughts on how I am doing it!

• 1- Re-evaluate my idea of SUCCESS: It all came down to my own definition of success. I decided that my new definition of Success was to be happy. How am I happy? Being the “best” mom I can be as well as contributing to society. However, there are many ways to do that – which not necessarily encompass the CEO route. Finding what inspires me and being able to channel it into my own venture is my new ideal.
• 2- Involve my Family: It does get controversial. Even when some experts argue against the “professionalization” of motherhood, it depends on how you look at it. My girls love what I do. I love to have my kids around when I host events, attend pre-screenings of movies with them and more. Most of the “research” I do to make informed and smart family decisions I share with other families in the community. It is a win-win for all!
• 3- Find my village: I cannot do alone and even when it is a common phrase it takes courage to live it. Connecting with other women allows for constant inspiration and support.
• 4- Plan: To find balance you definitely need to plan. Life is a juggling game. I have considered all areas/balls that matter to me and defined how to share my energy among them. I treat all with the care and respect they deserve. I consider all like delicate glass balls and focus on achieving a state of mind and activity that feels right and proper.Like I said, it is not easy. But nobody said it would be easy.

On this mother’s day – whether you are a stay-at- home mom, a working mom, a CEO mom. I hope you find your own definition of success and balance- yes, the one that makes you feel happy and valued.

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